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Is the same for employees...i cant trust any employer profile ..so many of them just like to collect pics... I just tell them. Lets do a face call much better so u know for sure the person u talking is the real thing...saddly no many employers like to do that ..but is the pnly way you can find out if they really are serious or not.

So sad scammers has taken over HB. Employers hardly trust the employees, due to some crazy act of some house boys this not fare. Always try to do right but no one is perfect

Scams are absolutely everywhere, and gay men in general are targets as they want to believe that the opportunity for our dreams not only exists but is as easy as going to the local store and picking it up. We as "employers" are real, and houseboys do exist.. not everyone is scamming. All suggestions here are excellent. Due diligence, background checks, not advancing money... all important. As to employers "not paying taxes" one should really research the basis for the Federal Reserve and IRS and you'll see that if you do not perform due diligence in that arena, it is truly we the taxpayers being scammed. That goes to say that in life there is no golden ring to grab on this carousel we call earth. Like everything else, you have to give for what you get, and the benefits received are always equal to or less than those given. The glass is half full, gentlemen. Remember that dark cannot invade light, but light certainly can eliminate dark!

The problem we run into is that often the reason a houseboy is looking for a job is that they are not working and have no money so unless you are willing to help with travel they cannot afford to get to you. Normally I tell them I will reimburse them for any travel expenses once they arrive and all is good and everything they have told me is true. I made the mistake of sending $100 to Michael22 for gas money and of course he turned out to not only be a scammer, but using different names on different sites. On the "other" houseboy site he is Matthew Myers, on here he is Michael Dawson, which is the name he used at Western Union to pick up my money. Insist on seeing your boy on cam either on yahoo or skype or on your phone's facetime and get him to take a selfie in the bathroom mirror showing either a current newspaper or holding up his fingers a certain way so that he can't just send a pic off the internet of the guy he is using to fake who he is.

I know this is an old post but I think this is a great idea but it needs to be a list for BOTH HOUSEBOYS AND EMPLOYER scams.

If you follow these basic rules, you should be fine for the most part: Employers: Rule #1: Never ever blindly send someone money for any reason, especially if you have never met them in person. If the boy requires money for sick grandma in order to continue talking to you, just move on to the next guy. Rule #2: If you have to buy someone transportation, make sure you buy the ticket and they can't do anything with it other than come to you, i.e. can't refund it or change it without paying a high fee. However, I usually prefer just to visit them and bring them back with me. Yes, it costs more, but it is the safest, especially considering you get to meet them first before actually committing to them moving in. And, most importantly, the scammers will never agree to meet first and go back with you. It's an easy way to weed them out before a dime is spent. Houseboys: Rule #1: Never go to stay with someone without having a backup plan. You don't want to get there and then be forced to stay there against your wishes without a way to get back or place to go. The backup plan could even be another potential employer willing to bail you out quick. Rule #2: Make sure the employer knows what to expect out of you and what you expect of them. Never agree you will definitely be having sex with them. If anything, indicate it could be possible if all works out with the employment/relationship after awhile. The ones out for sex only, and likely leaving you out in the cold soon after getting it, are not likely to agree to have you come if are being flakey about the sexual part, and definitely won't pay to have you come if they know you have a backup plan. It's a great way to weed these types out. But even if you are the sexual type, it's still a bad idea to put out soon after you arrive. First make sure the employer is comfortable with you being there and you comfortable as well. As soon as a routine is established and longer-term plans being discussed, would I consider the sexual part. Rule #3: Research the person you are moving in with and the place they live to be sure you are comfortable with what you are getting into. If you follow the above rules, you'll quickly realize how few legit people are actually on here. You will have fewer opportunities, in fact they will be quite rare. But I'd rather deal with that than being scammed even once.

Well In my opinion, before entering into any agreement whether you are a Employer or a House Boy, you should do your due diligence. Here are some tips that I think help some. communicate back and forth, don't be afraid to ask the questions about housing, sleeping arrangements, what you expect, what they expect, what is part of the arrangement and what is not. Make sure before you meet in person that you speak on the phone, I would also suggest you have at least one video chat as well Before Meeting, insist on a background check, This is for both Employers and Houseboys. There are places on the web you can have it done. Check out the essentials Arrest Record Driving Record in some cases a soft credit report (A soft pull describes an inquiry that does notaffect your credit score. Soft pulls, or soft credit checks, frequently occur and oftentimes you may not even be aware of it happening. Each soft pull is noted on your credit history file but they are only for you to see and are not available for lenders to view. Examples of soft credit pulls include: Credit report and score checks that you request yourself. Initial credit checks by credit card companies that want to solicit you for a pre-approved credit card. Initial credit checks by mortgage companies to pre-approve you for a loan. Credit background checks by a potential employer. Periodic credit checks by your insurance or credit card company to keep tabs on you.) I say even houseboys should do this. You don't want to get in a house only to find out that your employer is seriously past due and about to lose his house, car, and much much more, cause chances are you will be the one left out in the cold. And the most important thing. Get a contract drawn up, if you cant afford a lawyer you can find sites on the web that have basic employment contracts. Take that both of you sign it and have it notarized. None of these guarantee you anything but by having a legal contract and one or the other defaults on their end any future employers or houseboys that connect with this person and they follow the same steps they will see it on the background check. Side Note: this only works if when one party defaults on the contract you take them to court (small claims will do just fine, yes you want whats coming to you but you will also be helping the next guy alot and isnt that what its really about?) I know what I laid out is complicated but you cant rely on someone posting on the internet, you need proof, alot of times the one posting the smack is really the shady one, they know what to do and they are quick to beat the honest guy to the punch. Lastly I can not stress this enough: Potential Employers: Be cautious after doing all the above, don't give them access to your accounts, that includes your pin number, don't hand them a credit card because you dont have time to accompany them. Have them open an account at the same bank as you, you can then transfer money to them with out a fee. Potential Houseboys same goes for you, i have heard stories of the Employer telling a naive boy to turn all there financials and effects over to them and they will take care of them.. Be cautious in doing this cause many times you are the one that gets so buried in debt that you cant get out. I know this was long winded but I hope it helps someone.