I personally have not had such a relationship. It would be nice if that were to happen, for sure. And who knows? Best advise I’ve got is to just keep on searching. I think the right one for everyone is out there just waiting to be found. Best of luck to you all all the rest of us searching for “the right one” be it houseboy or employer. Honestly I’d settle for just a good, honest, friendly, open living arrangement where both our needs are met.