azudu2003

I just wanted to comment on a couple of the suggestions here so far... One is where an employer has been a member of the site for a while and it not taking more than 60 days to find a houseboy if they are serious. What about those of us who have actually found houseboys either through this site (or others), but may be looking for a new houseboy? Sometimes house boys don't work out and sometimes they move on to other things. Admittedly all but one that I have had worked out great, but I'm not going to close my account each time. There is also the suggestion of having employers pay $100 a month for membership. Apparently it never occurred to this house boy that not everything revolves around money. In some instances there may be cause for paying a houseboy, and in other instances, room/board, meals, travel and other entertainment (all which costs a lot to the employer) may be sufficient, depending upon the expectations and whatever agreement the employer and houseboy work out. Honestly, I laugh when I read that a houseboy expects things like; a salary, his own car, a computer and of course his room/board, meals, etc... That sounds more like something that should be a full-time job, and I have yet to find a houseboy that works 8 hours a day, 5 days a week! I do like the suggestion that maybe we, as adults, should police ourselves better. Maybe better warnings somehow to educate people that there are fakes, liars and scammers. It's a huge red flag to me when a potential houseboy wants me to send them money. They always have the excuse that they have a car and need money for gas. If I counter that I will buy them a plane ticket or even fly out to meet them where ever they are and help them drive to where I live (paying for expenses along the way), EVERY one of them will decline. I can't think of a legitimate reason why anyone would send someone money like that. If the houseboy is serious, he'll accept the plane ticket or bus ticket or even you going out to pick him up. Otherwise, he's just looking to scam you out of your money! As for those ads directing people to other sites, they should be reported and deleted. Maybe a delay from the time someone signs up on the site, to the time they can communicate with anyone on the site, would deter some of this.

I can't answer your question about why the games with so many on here. It does get old and it's a huge waste of time and effort. This particular individual sent me a response that was almost identical, word-for-word to what you say he sent you. I did have the opportunity to exchange a couple of emails with him, but quickly discovered that I was not interested in anything further with him. He made one excuse after another, delaying any plans for him to possibly come to visit as well as a multitude of excuses why I couldn't go to where he was, to visit. For me, this is a huge tip-off of a possible fake. He even had the nerve at one point to make a statement that went something like, "Let's face it, I'm very good looking and I know it. It's easy for me to get any guy I want." Talk about conceit! At any rate, there are guys on out there who are bent on playing games, manipulating, scamming and have no intention whatsoever of being a house boy or working or much of anything else. If they put as much effort into something legitimate, I can only imagine what they might accomplish! Fortunately, there are a few "real" guys out there looking for a position... I've met a few in the past and I couldn't have hoped for better people. So, I'll keep sorting through, until I find someone real, and I wish everyone else luck in finding what they are looking for, as well.

After reading a lot of what both Houseboys and Employers have written, and experiencing a lot on my own, I think there are a lot of "flakey" guys on both sides. It's unfortunate that both houseboys and employers start a profile on here when they really have no idea what they want or expect. Obviously, there are guys on both sides who have unrealistic expectations - employers who want to treat someone like a slave (or worse), and houseboys who expect to be generously compensated, oftentimes for little or no work. There are some genuine guys on here, however. Real guys wanting the chance to be a houseboy in some cases just to relocate and start over, fresh - others looking for more of a job with actual pay and other benefits (all of which depends on what is expected of them). There are real guys on here, also looking for a real houseboy, perhaps just to help keep things in order, help with a few chores around the house and maybe some companionship - others who want someone to run their household, cook their meals, clean their house, do the yard work as well as the companionship (sometimes nearly unlimited sex). It's funny how guys will put all sorts of things in their profile, just to elicit a response from someone. Just be up front, both in your profile and when someone responds. Stop playing games and wasting other peoples' time! Stop expecting to get something for nothing (both houseboys and employers). And most of all, watch out for those trying to scam you - it seems I run into them daily!

My comment is a bit after-the-fact, but there are two sides to every story, just like there are scammers who are "Employers" and there are scammers who are "Houseboys". Unfortunately for Houseboys, there are supposed Employers out there that will sometimes tell them anything to lure them in. Making the offer seem almost too good to be true - a pool to use, a private room, great salary, a car to drive, a cell phone, etc... Like the old saying goes, "If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is." There are some genuine Employers out there who may only be offering room and board, but that doesn't mean that a potential Houseboy should look to someone who is offering them the world on a silver platter (because the offer probably doesn't really exist, anyway). Unfortunately for Employers, there are supposed Houseboys out there who will use every story line in the book to convince the Employer to send them money and then the Houseboy never shows up or is never heard from again. There are also those Houseboys who actually do show up, then ask for or expect more and more, despite the fact that their skills and efforts are sorely lacking - sometimes they're not even good company, either! No advice is 100%, but at least take a little time to get to know each other. It's amazing what you can learn about someone after a week's time. Pay attention to what the other person is saying or claiming!!! DON'T let your emotions take over... make an informed and educated decision (this goes for Houseboys and Employers both). If you start noticing discrepancies in their story, they are probably lying about something and that's not a good sign. Oftentimes, if someone is lying, they won't remember what answer they gave you about something when you first started talking - even if the discrepancy is a small one, it might be significant. It's a good idea to have a "back up" plan for both parties involved. If things don't work out, there needs to be a way out for everyone involved. It's a good idea to write down what is agreed upon, not necessarily to create a contract, but so that everyone involved is clear on what is expected and what is provided - no one claiming they didn't understand or didn't know. Everyone can agree to whatever they want, but sometimes I wonder if people realize that room and board and food for someone all cost money and that should be at least a part of the "compensation" of a houseboy, and by the same token, a houseboy shouldn't be expected to spend their money on food for the house or chipping in for utilities. Yes, there are scammers and frauds both in the Houseboy section and the Employer section, but there are also legitimate ones in both sections, too. Use your common sense and don't let your emotions get in the way!

This guy is a fake and a waste of your time. He uses the same photos and has been on multiple other websites, although he will claim to be from different areas of the country (Buffalo NY, Florida, Austin TX, you name it). To my knowledge, he has never solicited money, but from what I have gathered and from what other guys have said, he is actually an older guy (45-50) probably living in the Florida area somewhere, who likes to play games with guys who are actually looking for a houseboy or a younger guy for whatever type of arrangement. He will oftentimes claim to be very submissive, shy and unorganized, in need of an older guy to mentor him and even dominate him to take care of his personal decisions. He will claim that he will perform any chores required of him and readily accept any discipline if those chores are not completed to your satisfaction. He will also claim that he likes to play video games and hopes that there will be time set aside for him to do that. There will also be times that you won't hear from him and suddenly he reappears and he may drag these games on for weeks or even months. Some of his tactics may have changed over time, but he is still an older guy, playing games with people.