BryanR

I agree with Kestrelsf. When setting up a profile if you do not check all the boxes related to sex you simply can't even set up a profile! Then, the first thing that someone sees when opening your profile is whether you "take loads in the mouth" and "loads in the ass". Who on earth made that up? The webmaster Michael? If people want to be taken seriously that this is a legitimate endeavor (being a "employer" or "houseboy) all that needs to go. Its utterly ridiculous and basically says the whole purpose of the site is sex under the cloak of being a legitimate "employment" site. I also agree with the other aspects of his post including posting pictures of the living arrangement. Otherwise its really just a joke site that targets older gay men who are lonely or bored in their relationships or younger gay men who are in desperate situations and then of course the Nigerian men and women who know lonely older gay men are about as vulnerable of a group with cash as you can find.

I have tried this site for a short period of time now and the suggestions the webmaster is posing will likely just cause the site to become so cumbersome to use that it simply becomes obsolete. If one looks at other social networking sites such as adam4adam or okcupid they do not put ridiculous restrictions on members as it is up to the people meeting on the site to handle those tasks. It seems odd that this site where people are deemed "employers" and the other party "houseboys" has such enourmous problems compared to other social media sites. After setting up a profile and recieving over 100 emails from "employers" it is apparent that what these people are seeking is not the norm and is more a very specialized aspect of overall gay culture. It is likely the actual number of people 18-25 approximately that are truly seeking to live with a 45, 50, or 65 year old gay man or gay couple is so rare that it creates paranoia in the "employer" also known as the older gay man because he himself knows that what he is seeking is so rare it could be considered unrealistic. Thats where the people who have had profiles on sites such as these for 5-8 years or longer come in. What they are seeking and what is reality are simply not connecting. The whole concept of "fakes" and "scammers" must operate in that the older gay man who is in that terrible trap of only being able to find fulfillment with someone more than half his age is in a extremely vulnerable position to be targeted for scams because of his desperation to find fulfillment in something that is either so rare that he must search for years or simply does not exist but he holds out hope. The couples who want someone to live with them, I can't really comment on them other than its simply them living out a father/son or mentor scenerio or something more sexualized. When the layers of this employer/houseboy onion are peeled away it seems to really come down to one thing: A older gay man or couple who wishes to have sex with a 18-25 year old guy under the auspices of being a domestic helper. If you compare the role of domestic helper to other people who fill that role such as hispanic women they are not showered with vacations and trips to exotic desinations or use of their lamborghini etc. It comes down to the desire of the older gay man trapped in that mentality that he can only find fulfillment with someone half his age. For the couples, it may be more complex or simply they want a young gay guy to have sex with after years of being together. After all those thoughts it simply appears that yes these older gay men are in vulnerable positions since they are seeking something very unrealistic. I tried this site to see what type of people are on here and it seems as if it is a trap for the extremely paranoid older gay man and drug abusing younger gay guys and I don't see much coming out of it other than the webmaster killing his own site by making people "verify" themselves in 1,000 different ways. There are plenty of other sites to meet people and it almost seems as if he is bent on killing his own site. A complete re-vamp of how people approach what they are searching for and losing the paranoid mentality would likely save many members a lot of heartache and wasted hours searching for something that likely will never come to be.

If you check the Occupational Outlook Handbook you will find the market rates for different areas of the country for houseboy positions. It is filed under Domestic Workers.