Takaria

For employers that have more in mind than just sex! My apologies in advance if this is going to sound a bit technical, but not sure how to bring it on a site like Houseboy, where the line between love and work is a bit thin. If I have to believe the forum entries here on Houseboy, than 90% is fake, houseboys and employers alike. The most hot topics on Houseboy’s forum is about scammers. And you probably might have heard every story imaginable. Which makes me doubt if my honesty is not just something that will fade away in this trail set by flakers and scammers. But I’m willing to give it a try. Because I’m not the kind that just follows blindly the masses. The reason I landed here on Houseboy, is because I’m at a point in life where I have walked, the for me all known avenues, in search for my MISTER RIGHT and a more comfortable and better life. So, please, with the forum entries in mind, don’t assume things before knowing the facts, and don’t get me wrong. I can take care just fine for myself in my basic needs, although a very sober life, but okay for me and for the standards in the town I live in. To summarise what I’m not looking for: Not looking for you to pay for my phone Not looking for you to pay my rent Not looking for you to pay my bills Not looking for you to pay my car Not looking for you to pay my food What I do look for in the first place is a partner/lover, in all aspects of these words. Who I can give my love to Who I can help with my skills With whom to realize both our ambitions With whom to make both our dreams come true And many other things Besides the love that I like to give to the RIGHT person, and my protective nature, some other things that I can offer: Graduated in car mechanics, and a good knowledge of other mechanical workings Experienced in French cuisine, and hobbyist and interests in kitchens from around the world Maintenance in and around the house, small repairs like electricity, plumbing, etc Maintenance of the garden Very skilled in household chores, washing and ironing Administration and office skills Computer and internet savvy Native Dutch and Berber language, fluent English, good French, basic German and Spanish I would like to meet the RIGHT guy, wherever he might live, but taking things from my personal life in considering, it would be easier to find someone in Europe. I’m open to meet someone from another part of the world, but that would make things a bit more complicated. My expectations: To establish a correspondence for at least one month to get to know each other, by means of email, Skype, phone or any other way to keep in touch with each other. When it comes to a point to meet, always welcome to visit me in Belgium. If you want to meet at your place, I’d like all expenses taken care of by you. I just can take care for my own needs here in Belgium. I hope you have some understanding for this. Off course all expenses covered that I’ll have in Belgium for the period that I’m staying with you. (for example for rent, because I will not close things here immediately, need to have a fallback if things don’t work out), I hope you understand this too. I'm willing to give us a chance for a maximum period of six months. After six months I think we know if we are a good match. And when we are a match, and I can stay with you permanently, all expenses need to be covered to close down the life I had in Belgium. I do not have debts, and I do not have a criminal record. All official documentation can be provided to you in our first meeting. My wich/needs when we find each other. I’m a person of little needs and low maintenance, for which I prefer to work, to cover the costs of these needs and any other maintenance costs. I like to go to the gym, at least five times a week I like to have a mountain bike, as that is one of my biggest hobbies Access to other means of transportation Cloths and food And be able to have some quality time and recreational time But waht I which/need the most is to enjoy from your precense and share in all the things you like and love too. If this does make you feel something, than I’d like to hear from you. Life is long when you enjoy it, but short when you let it go to waste. So??? Is there still someone who knows how to love?

Interesting thread. Some thoughts are heartwarming and reassuring that there are good and nice employers. However, one employer's entry in this thread made it sound like he was talking about objects instead of houseboys/person. Fair to assume, as both for employers and houseboys, that the bad apples spoil the whole bunch?

You have a point there yngdom4older. Reappearing with a new profile does not mean always that they are fake. Nevertheless, and unfortunate, there is a lot more fake going around in the virtual world, it just gives this opportunity of animosity. If you could measure this phenomenon, and put this in statistics, you will find out that there are as many fakers listed as houseboy and as many fakers listed as employer. Just question yourself why it appears like that there are more houseboys fake. Unlike employers, who have things straightened out, and have a secure and comfortable lifestyle, most houseboys seek these platform as a last resort. To find a new home, and take a break from the situation they live in. And question yourself, if it's possible that some employers take advantage in this matter. Would you stick around any longer, to see if after who knows how many times being disillusioned, perhaps to bump into someone who is a possible match. And it does not mean, that when you're an employer, and when you find a houseboy of your liking, that he would be automatically be interested. Maybe a bit straight forward, but some employers need to come down of their high horse and realize that what they have to do is a noble thing, and help out others, and not something they feel entitled to.