Buck52

First time I checked out his profile I new something was screwy. Eye color not matching profile, half the profile missing. Obvious fake do I didn’t even waste my time messaging him. Cute guy whoever he is.

Thanks for the big tip. Hope majority of employers view this forum in order to be up to speed on known fakes, flakes, cons and scammers.

I want to suggest and recommend that this forum be a place where guys can inquire if any of us have prior knowledge, whether good or bad, in regards to any prospective houseboys (or employers for that matter).

Couldn’t agree more. And guys could also submit requests if any of us have prior knowledge, good or bad, of boy prospects they are contemplating as well.

Thanks for the tip on that lowlife.

Thanks DJHJD. I’d pretty much figured he was a con from the get go. Like you stated, a couple of messages then he wants my email. I tell him I don’t give out my email but that we can use Kik or Skype. That way we can do anonymous live video chats without revealing phone numbers or email addresses. Yep, that was the last I heard.

Anyone had dealings with Jack911 ?

It’s ALWAYS a scam. Steer clear. It’s a fairly common tactic to relieve you of your wallet.

I personally have not had such a relationship. It would be nice if that were to happen, for sure. And who knows? Best advise I’ve got is to just keep on searching. I think the right one for everyone is out there just waiting to be found. Best of luck to you all all the rest of us searching for “the right one” be it houseboy or employer. Honestly I’d settle for just a good, honest, friendly, open living arrangement where both our needs are met.

Warning to All: Latest houseboy to avoid is manuel45 Youve been warned.

Thanks for your input on the topic. I enjoyed the read. Lots of good info. And the stories of the two positive relationships you were fortunate to share is encouraging for us all. Trusting in your own intuition is so important. If it feels right, go for it. If it doesn’t, step away.

Thank you Propman for the heads up. I saw fidel100 is still active on the site just now. I knew he was bs first time HE hit ME up just from his intro chat message. I never responded. Waste of time. Hang in there everyone, there’s a good one out there for us all. Keep on a keepin on.

It’s a shame that some of these boys may be homeless. That shouldn’t happen to anyone. Yet, when they are given a golden opportunity for a chance to improve their lives, as well as to make life a little easier for their employer who has given them the opportunity, some of them, such as your recent one, choose to remain in that lowly state of their own free will. Like the saying goes, you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink.

Sorry to learn of that. What a bummer and a waste of a man’s time, energy and resources. I had one of those last fall. Spent most of his time on his phone or watching tv. Sent him home a week into our two week agreed upon trial stay. What a lazy lout.

My only response is through time and patience. It takes time to build trust. Without enough of it there will be no mutual arrangement. Could take a month or two or however long. Only a fool would allow a total stranger you don’t know if you can trust to come in to your home. Good luck to you all and keep on searching. There’s a good one out there for us all.

Lol! Well DJHJD, better late than never, as they say. I’m glad he came through for ya. So now we are all curious how it turned out. Is he a keeper or not? Best a luck to everyone out there.

Thanks for tipping us off to this thug. Good luck in nailing his sorry ass to the wall.

“F”? What’s the meaning?

It’s my personal opinion that a prospective employer should arrange the prospective houseboy’s transportation to employer’s residence either by physically accompanying him or purchasing “round trip fare” for him so he is guaranteed a way back if things don’t work out. I suggest that be in the form of a non refundable ticket. If employer chooses to pick up and accompany houseboy in personal he should immediately offer him enough for him to return home in the form of cash or prepaid debit card before ever leaving the general area. All of this brought up and agreed upon prior of course. Effectively at least gives the houseboy a way out.

Thanks Ynotburdad, appreciate the effort made to put out the word on another bad apple here. He looked about as much Native American as Elizabeth Warren is. That was first red flag I saw when viewing his profile just now. That and the fact half of it, an important half, was basically left blank. That’s also a big red flag for me saying this guy obviously isn’t serious about securing a position with anyone. Let’s all keep on searching. I think there is a good houseboy out there deserving of all of us.

Amen brother

To Educatedhelper, I was not calling you out or blasting you and I apologize now if that it how I came across to you. It certainly wasn’t my intent. I was only bringing up the reality and the facts that we ALL face here, both houseboys and employers. I know you know that that’s just how it is in today’s world. I’m certainly not jaded either, in fact I’m one of the most optimistic men you’ve never had the chance to meet. I still have faith in mankind. I don't think I’m a fool even though I’ve done some foolish things regarding sending money to potential houseboys and getting burned every time in the process. Once burned, always learned. If you think that makes me jaded that’s in you. I call it getting educated at the school of hard knocks. The old saying holds true today, a fool and his money soon part. Point is, until a strong sense of “trust” is developed between the two parties, chances of handing over money with no guarantees whatsoever, regardless of the receiver’s intent, are slim and none. That’s just the way it is. I didn’t create that atmosphere that exists in today’s world but I’ve certainly been a victim of it, numerous times. My fault, no one else’s. No one “made” me send them money for what I thought were good intentions that turned out not so much. I keeping up my side of an agreement with the other side not doing so. I’m not here to judge you for what you said or did or your intentions or anything else. Just doing a reality check. Good luck to you and everyone else out there seeking a mutually beneficial, working, pleasant, enjoyable relationship through this site.

Oh, and by the way, that’s one very attractive, very sexy, very hot damn pic! Woof!

I believe what the majority of employers seek here is a mutually agreeable relationship, where both parties engage with agreed upon expectations, benefits and boundaries based on “trust”. No houseboy nor no employer wishes to be taken advantage of and I think we all fear that to some degree. At least you should. Sadly because that’s the way the world is these days. I think this is what leads us all to be quite skeptical when initially trying to establish a connection and start the trust building process. And one of the first “red flags”, at least for me, is asking to send money right away. Regardless of why said money is requested. It’s a natural reaction. That doesn’t mean the employer is stingy, mean, frugal, tight, cheap, unbending, has no compassion or empathy. Just means he’s being smart and cautious. I believe most employers on here would be happy to lend a helping hand financially if and when a deep sense of trust is developed. A refusal to send financial assistance with no trust, no guarantees is just good common sense. Even if it’s for, say, a non-profit, religious or humanitarian effort, much less to pay a boy’s, very expensive, phone and internet bills so that he has a means to communicate.

GreatHomeForYou you’re welcome to message me on the home site anytime. Would enjoy exchanging info.