Dad49

This corona virus thing has really disrupted all of our lives. I have been seeking a houseboy for some length of time. I really need help, and need to feel like I’m helping a young man. I crave companionship, and if there is some physical intimacy, that’s a bonus. But my house is a disaster of a mess and I need a hard working guy to help me out. But I just am not comfortable having someone from the outside world into my home where I have been practicing 100% isolation for the past 17 days. I’m a senior, with a couple of underlying conditions, and I’d do a houseboy or myself no good if I got sick. So, I’ve put it all on hold. It’s not like houseboy candidates are breaking down my door. But there are some good guys out there. I’m happy talking to anybody who wants to explore the possibilities, but I won’t be making a move until things change for the better. Anybody disagree?

As far a guys seeking only sex, I’m not sure that is a big deal. I’m pretty clear in communication with the young men who have made serious inquiries that sex is low on my priorities for a houseboy. I’m looking for help in maintaining my home and for companionship. Physical intimacy us a wonderful gift to mankind, but I’ve never been comfortable wit the pay for play relationships that come around. Just not for me. If I eventually hire my helper-companion, hugs would be welcome, and if something more happens organically, that’s cool. I guess my point is that the way the site is set up, the profiles ask about dick size an preferences and kinks. But not every employer, nor every houseboy is totally driven by sex.

I think Rocketmahn has a point. There are probably not a lot of guys looking to be houseboys who are walking around with pockets full of money. If it’s going to cost two or three hundred dollars to get to my location, I understand that it is possible that an otherwise worthy and ideal candidate doesn’t have the cash to get here. That is a genuine problem for many. But with personal experience and the experience of others, I know that if I were to send a guy the $300 it’s going to get here by air, rail or bus, there is no guarantee that he will spend the money to get here. What is probably harder for me to accept is that I’ve dealt with 4, maybe 5 young men who I believe to be honest and sincere and in search of a host. Each of those guys, in the end, chose not to become my houseboy, but rather to accept another offer, or to keep looking for a better match. Yes, I admit it, I’m a difficult match. I’m deadly honest with potential helpmates. I suppose some figure it’s probably worse than it sounds, while others taking me for my word decide it’s not for them. still, I have faith that the right guy is out there, I’ve just yet to meet him.

It is okay to post here on the forum, but to get the most exposure, and to give more details about yourself, you should also create a profile on the main Houseboy.com site. This is true for both potential houseboys and potential employers it’s not a rule, just a good idea.

Buck. I have also engaged with kw1000. One of the better back stories, but stuck to my guns on sending money finally checked the photos he sent on a reverse image site and found one originally was posted on a porn site in 2012. Enough said.

Alex, you are lucky to have been approached by someone who is not very good at the game. Some of these guys have become very good at what they do.

Maybe with Skype or another video chat platform the two parties could get a good idea of their mutual compatibility, but it would take time and both would need to commit that if there is doubt on either side, it is “no deal”. Uncertainty and doubt are two different things. There will always be uncertainty about what is coming, but doubt is when you suspect the worst is likely. As for the financial arrangement, I can’t speak to the actual dollar amounts, but I would expect that if a houseboy completes his commitment honorably (or if the time frame is open-ended, he has served a reasonable tenure) that I should be prepared to send him off with enough cash to get him back to where I found him. A scam artist can come from anywhere, including overseas. But I guess I’d be much more trusting of a fellow who gets a tourist visa and sees a limited-time houseboy engagement as an adventure and a way to experience my country while benefitting from having a built-in home and friend.

Reporting on the profile is fine, unless once you confront the crooked member, he is likely to block you. Once that happens, you can’t get on his profile.

HandsomeMuscle has a new profile Lkn4OlderMentor i had a personal experience with him under the old profile this week, that may be why he has a new one.

Pinkcock , a supposed houseboy candidate left me a note expressing interest in my profile. Then he told me he was in the US Army in Syria, but will be home in a few weeks. That’s the most common unsuccessful scam run against lonely men on the gay phone apps.

I love you guys, but I’ll be honest. If I find a really great houseboy who meets my needs and meets mine, I won’t be on here giving anybody enough details that they might lure my man away. IF I ever find a good one, I’m hoping to treat him right and keep him fit a long time.

No info on Gabe4fun, but I just want to say you are wise to post the question on here. Had I done the same on the last guy I seriously considered I’d have saved hundreds of dollars and lots of aggravation.

Sometimes, I think we look at the sexual side of an arrangement to the point that we neglect the practical aspects. Many of the potential houseboys that i have looked at seriously have indicated that they need health benefits. That is very wise, but can be costly. I cannot afford to self-insure myself, nor could I bear full responsibility for the healthcare of a young man. The kinds of insurance available on The Exchange via the ACA -those with low premiums- would, in the event of a major illness, require more deductible and co-pay dollars that a houseboy could probably afford. One solution I’ve suggested meets with mixed reaction from those I’ve reached out to: the houseboy would secure part-time employment with an employer that offers group health insurance. Then, if the employee share of that insurance was onerous to the houseboy, I could help with that cost. In that way, at least I’d be paying for insurance that actually offers accessible benefits But many houseboy candidates balk at the idea of holding other employment, even if I adjust my requirements at home. Part of this is related to the young man’s sense of invincibility, they can’t see needing it. Others see outside employment as outside of their expected role. Of course owners of businesses that carry employee health plans might find ways to include o houseboy in that plan. But most of us don’t find ourselves in such a position. An aside on another topic, I agree with Buck52 who dislikes the term, “houseboy.” I think it can be somewhat demeaning to the gentleman upon which I would so depend. This week, I’m going to try on the title, “Valet-companion.” Any thoughts?

The scammer referred to here as iambronson is currently on the site as kbronsony and he ran a scam on me similar to what he has on others. The photo is him, though probably a couple years old. I did meet him, and in fact used frequent flyer miles to bring him to Chicago and then more miles to get him back to Charlotte. The con he ran on me is consistent with what he has done with others, and he’s pretty good at it. But he’s had plenty of chances to be somebody’s houseboy, and would rather just carry on with the con. Don’t buy into it, as true as it may all sound.

I scan these houseboy profiles almost daily, looking for new posts, re-reading the ones I didn’t contact but was tempted to do so. I’m disturbed by the proliferation of two questionnaire responses, “ask me,” and “it depends.” I can understand “ask me,” if a response requires some kind of explanation that justifies an answer that might otherwise eliminate the man from consideration But when a potential houseboy answers several questions with “ask me,” I tend to presume that he wants to Guatemala what answer I would like to hear. The same is true for “it depends.” One such answer is leaving something unknown, but I bypass the men who have several indefinite responses. Am I being paranoid, or unfair to these guys?