How effective is Houseboy.com

[ceman554]

I have chosen two sites that specialize in matching young and old (inter-generational) couples and have been searching for "the one" for several years. During that time, I have had replies from fakes, gold-diggers, phonies, scammers, game players, etc. but no real, honest, polite, sincere young men who are truthful about what they looking for on these sites. Have any of you gentlemen heard of anyone who has had success in finding the kind of person (twink, gent, Daddy, houseboy, etc.) that he was looking for? Where are the success stories that usually accompany these sites?

I am a humble man who was (as I am sure that most of the "employers" on these sites) bullied, beaten, raped, discriminated against and, treated badly in every conceivable way while fighting for not only our own lives but the lives and rights of the LGBTQ community to follow us. We have fought against the bigotry and homophobia that those who follow should be able to have a more normal and productive life than we had. For my part, I became aware of the hate that was aimed against us when, 50 years ago yesterday, I was attacked by the very people who were supposed to protect us. The Place was New York City. The place was a seedy little bar called the Stonewall Inn. I was a 15 year old runaway looking for a peaceful place where boys like myself could find others like me.  I still have nightmares about that night. I had to be carried (out cold and missing two teeth )away from the violence after being the recipient of a night stick to my face. I woke up in a hotel room where I was being taken care on by the drag princess who saved me. She put me on a bus back to my parents not knowing that I would have preferred to get back into the fight. You can take the boy out of the fight but you can't take the fight out of the re-headed Irish boy. I have been an activist since. I like to think that I am at least partially responsible for the rights to same-sex marriage.

I am on these sites to find that young man who, like myself, is looking for the love and support that I never found at home. (I am sure that most of the older guys on here are doing the same.) It sounds like a simple thing but becomes so complicated when the liars, thieves and game-players get into the mix. So, I ask again: where are the success stories? Do any of you men (young or old) havew any to share? If not about yourself, about a friend or acquaintance? I would love to hear about it.

   

[lovehouseboy]

hello there I would agree with you. and I am doing the same thing as you were doing. try to get a young guy live with me and respect him treat him like he is apart of the family,  but most of the young guy here from the US and  I am from Canada its very hard for him go to other country for living and to work, I actually want adopt a gay young male as a my son which I never had. and so far I meet most of scammer lier and they want me pay for everything first, and I almost give up here and since I see your post I willing give it a try and see what happen. thanks for your time.

[Buck52]

I’m curious ceman554 as to what other site you are referring to? I’d like to spread out to another means of finding a good boy, as tough a challenge as that seems to be, for me at least. If responding with the name of the site here may throw up a red flag then please feel free to private message me anytime. Thank you in advance. 

[bacha]

i've met several good men or couples thru the site, some that i've stayed in touch with even when things didn't work out between us.  the site is very haphazardly administered, as an afterthought to the webcam porn portion of the site.  and it's like most dating sites in the modern era, has lots of flakes, bots and picture collectors.  but if you fill out your profile, chat with people, vet them, ask them practical questions, video chat them, get a background check etc, it's pretty obvious who is actually leaning into meeting and checking each other out.   it's possible to meet good guys if the math of your competing but reasonable expectations works out.  but it's a long shot.  good luck.