With 10,000 American Baby Boomers retiring every day, I am flabbergasted that nobody on here seems to be interested in honest to goodness top quality gay live in assistance

[LovingOver50]

Here I am, an incredibly qualified well preserved man in my 50s who has been looking for a suitable live in gig in Southern California for YEARS.... And despite the legions of older single gay men in this region, many of which I am certain have large homes that they either do not wish to leave, or faced with modern ironic yet endemic financial infeasibility of leaving, but are overwhelmed with trying to take care of the place themselves, I am still unable to find anyone willing to even interview me!   

I have been a private meal service chef and an events producer in the city of Los Angeles for over 20 years.  I own my own vehicle free and clear. I have no debt. I am in a long term stable living situation but I want to trade up.  I am not financially destitute.  I have never been a drinker or a drug user.  Most importantly, I keep an amazing home.

There simply HAS to be at least ONE man in Southern California who sees exponentially more value in considering a live in gig with someone like me, who is literally bursting with marketable skills, then in some dopey cum fountain who reads at a seventh grade level who will do nothing for them but satisfy their dwindling sex drive, be high all the time, and possibly foist an endless panoply of drama upon them.

I have literally been on this site for over ten years.  I knew my value then, and I still know it (and in many ways it has increased).   Are there ANY California dwelling independent critical thinkers on here born between 1947 and 1965 who have taken ten minutes to consider what it might mean for them to grow older in place without anyone to share their household responsibilities with?

If that is you, I would consider dropping me a message.

Bill

 

[GreatHomeForYou]

Bill, your great story is more proof of how times have changed, but not for the better.  We had our first houseboy in the late '80s and we had over 30 qualified candidates apply for that position.  The one we chose stayed with us for 5 years while he attended college and then of course moved on.  We had a few other long term houseboys and always had a pool of candidates from which to choose.

 

Now we find ourselves at the opposite end of the spectrum.  The last houseboy we had was in 2018 and we have not been able to find a serious houseboy who wants to live in Daytona Beach, Florida since then.  Most all of these boys on here are either scammers or are looking for sugar daddies.  They don't want to do any work, they just want to lay around and look pretty while collecting a salary.  I just can't imagine what the next several generations of youth will be like.

 

Anyway, best of luck in your continued search for a serious match.

[tabris713]

I didn't think of it that way but that's a fair point? I don't have proper stats to make this a fact but here's my theory:

1. Big chunk of the baby boomers are straight and they are looking for women (whether that's sugar arrangement, marriage, gf, maid with benefits, etc)
2. Older gen may be more conservative in nature as being gay was considered taboo for much of their lives in the past and they prefer to be as low profile as possible preferring for short-term and discrete arrangement in nature.
3. Volatile economy and inflation is a bitch. Not all baby boomers managed to lock down a place they own (or managed to secure a low interest mortgage that is almost paid off) and their buying power are declining (perhaps not as bad as the next gens but still). This may make it harder to all-paid accommodation longterm if not lifetime. That's a bit of a commitment you don't take lightly like having a child.

4. Seems like this website isn't very active unfortunately. I imagine many found someone by now or got discouraged from spams/bots and exited the market.

5. I imagine for a lot of older gens who are established, they have been successful because they surround themselves with people who made it in life and avoiding people with liabilities (for drama-free sanity, financial protection, etc). Typically houseboys are looking for an arrangement (not everyone ofc but many I imagine) because they haven't figured out their lives yet and it may give them "pick me up" vibe rather than someone who may compliment them and provide them with solid synergetic relationship. Plus many of these people I imagine have the option to just find someone on a dating market who have their lives figured out rather than going into smaller niche market of houseboys. 

6. Seems like a lot of houseboys tend to be entitled or too unstable to have a meaningful arrangement longterm. Not all ofc and bad news spread faster than good news, but they do scare them off I imagine.

Food for thought. Rooting for you regardless because I'm on a similar boat welp lol.