To all houseboys and employers.

[HBboy]

Hello everyone,

My name is HBboy.

Instead of finding lots of people that use or burn you....find the one that helps you

I just happened to notice that a lot of employers are down grading, bad mouthing, or dissing on some of the houseboys. Maybe they were past employers or past houseboys and happened to find out the hard way? Who knows? BUT, the way I see it is very simple. If "YOU", the employer, employed such a houseboy and allowed him to enter your home...who's fault is it really. Obviously the HB was probably sugar-coating it for you and gave you what you wanted to hear. Not the best way to go about things. Yes you are mad and want to post or warn future employers about this "con-artist" or "compulsive liar", but do you really think it will help? Maybe maybe not? We don't know.

Which leads me to my next topic.

Houseboys....tsk, tsk, tsk. What are you doing? What are you going about things the wrong way with your employer? I am sure that these are good people but why bite the hand that feeds you? Why lie to the person/persons giving you a place to stay, a roof over your head during a time when...well whatever it is that is putting you in this position to be a HB? If you do your job as a HB and are good at what you do, then could things are possible to come. If you are in a certain position and need a side job and do school, or whatever it is you need to get done to better your future this is a good place to start.

Now don't get me wrong I am not agreeing or disagreeing with anyone's ups and downs. For example: I had a friend who was a HB and was lied to by an employer also. I found out what was going on and quickly took action to get him out of there. He went from worse to more worse. Not good. What I want to say is be very careful with who you talk to and who you trust on here.

I was a house boy for a couple and they were the best people I have ever met in my life. I am glad and proud to call them friends. So yes I know why I am posting this. Been there done that. So......here we go. A few pointers for you all out there who are a member. Things you might want to consider.

1. HB or employer. If you come in contact with someone who might be a fit. Please be sure to talk to them for a while and see if things go there. This helps to see if anything is a miss. Say, for example: after chatting for a while and ask questions and get different answers or stories are stumbled. It's a good way to find a "LIAR"!

2. If both of you are serious and willing to meet first, that would be a good way to get things going. Figure out a time and date that the both of you can meet half way or one or the other fly in if too far apart for a day or weekend. You get to interact with each other and get a vibe flowing about one another. Than as easy as 123 you are back to your spot and make a decision if it was a match or not.

3. Again if getting serious after chatting. As an employer ask the HB for background details. Can he do certain jobs or duties. Is he up for the challenge of being YOUR HB. "hey my employers wanted a background check and I gave it to them.Why because I had nothing to hide and was honest". If you do the same and ask for a background check and get a no, that is a red flag but might not want to give his info over the phone to a stranger which is smart. (never give your personal info to someone you don't know)

4. If you agree to meet and that goes well and decide you are a match than try each other out for two weeks and if things are going well than you can make a decision if it is permanent or if it is time to ship HB back home. During those two weeks you can do a background check if permitted.

5. Always ask and make sure that the person you invite into your home is into drugs or worse. You don't want someone addicted into your home or watching your things.

There are so many tools that each side of the coin has in front of them. Use them. If you feel something is a miss than go with your gut instinct. Any type of abuse is abuse so never tolerate that in any way shape or form. I know you are all capable and smart enough to know what is going on and smart enough to not allow someone to burn you. Get with the program people this is someone you are going to invite into your home. Check Check Check for red flags. If you need some info ask. I will do my best to help.

Wish you all the best in your search. HBboy.