Can we (houseboys) trust in somebody???

[younggayboy]

I'm new into this, i'm looking for a real opportunity as Houseboy... But, after reading the forum posts, i'm AFRAID to trust in someone!!!

We are people!!! If we want to be Houseboys it's because we are not rich and because we need to work and need MONEY or HELP!!! We have feelings! We have desires! We have rights!

A Houseboy it's not a SLAVE!! If you want a slave look at internet and you will find a lot of websites related with that.

A Houseboy is a employee! We can clean your house, do the laundry service, go shopping, cook, make you company, organise you, help you in your work, travel with you, go out dinner, cinema, concerts... of course, if agreed, may be sex envolved... but only if AGREED!!! We work, so you pay for our work! Nothing more fair! Is an exchange of "favors"!

If you don't have good financial conditions to pay and take care of your Houseboy and you don't understand what is a HOUSEBOY, may you should go looking in other place for a escort for sex! It's cheaper and he will give you what you want in bed!

So, i'm looking for a real and serious employer! I need help and i help you with my job! Easy like that!

[oldmentor]

younggayboy -

Your questions and concerns can be easily turned the other way by possible employers. I have also read the forum posts and looked through lots of profiles. It is very easy for an employer to come up with the exact same concern as you - AFRAID to trust in someone!!!

There are three types of houseboys and employers with profiles on this site.

- Those who are legitimate

- Those who are scammers

- Those in the research phase trying to figure out if this might be something that could work for them.

The big problem is sorting out the scammers.

The very nature of the front page advertising on this site points towards a sexual aspect to the arrangement. Most profiles indicate a likely sexual aspect to an arrangement. Does it have to be this way? Maybe not.

But keep in mind that you, as a houseboy, are competing for a limited number of positions with a limited number of legitimate employers. You have to sell yourself. The way you do that is your profile. That's how you will get that initial inquiry from an employer.

If you don't want to sex to be the primary factor in a arrangement - then say so. Sure, that may eliminate some potential employers. But it's unlikely your arrangement would have worked out anyway.

Let's say you get a potential employer to inquire to you. Do you have a plan for responding? For instance:

Do you have a separate email set up just for houseboy related communications? This would be an email that you could just throw away if it gets overwhelmed with spam - without compromising your normal email.

Remember - you are responding to a possible job position. Do you have a resume (curriculum vitae in some countries) prepared that you can email out? Something that goes into more detail (without repeating) what's on your profile.

How are you going to put this prospective employer's mind at ease that you are not a scammer or, worse, an outright thief trying to gain access to his property.

After an initial contact I would say the first step to success is a significant electronic exchange of information - by both parties. More detail on what you are willing to give and what you expect in return. Everyone who has a profile on this site knows how to use a computer. So use it. I also think a truly successful arrangement will need to have a face to face meeting. I would also highly suggest a written agreement.

A couple of comments about you: I am unable to pull up your full profile - I get an error message. That's something you might want to correct. I do see your age (27), a picture and a location of Portugal. I compliment you on your English. For any houseboy reading this - if you are multilingual put that in your profile (list the languages)! That could be quite important to a potential employer.

[horseback70]

Well I am a legitimate employer with a big heart and I have to say there are also a lot of Houseboys on here and ready to try and scam someone. Or you have those that create a profile then never come back. I sent over 20 messages looking for a houseboy not a 1 has replied back. That just tells me many are not serious. However I have had 2 houseboys on this site that did a great job for me and would have them back anytime. The problem is the younger the guy more likely he is to become homesick for family or friends. So they never last long. I'm seeking another and hope when and if I find one he's one that is serious and sticks around a while. If your seriously looking then get back to me. If your seeking a position be serious... But on the other hand I have heard many many bad stories from my houseboys that say many employer's just want a sex slave or nothing they say is correct and all lies. Houseboys be sure to get to know the employer well. Talk on the phone, skype or something. Ask to see pics of your room and pics of the house.